Vanessa Vander Weide Vanessa Vander Weide

Two months ago, I started a new job that began with onsite training, eventually moving to working from home. The first day after we transitioned to WFH, I received messages through social media from one of the members in my training group. In these messages she called me a bitch, a monster, demonic, and evil; she accused me of making transphobic comments among other things and made threats towards me trying to lie because she had the receipts. This was a person I had minimal interaction with during the four weeks we spent training together. I immediately brought these messages to my supervisors and HR. After a lengthy investigation was conducted, it was determined to be “a misunderstanding” (read: there were no receipts or proof of any kind regarding her accusations) and that my personality was described as “larger than, eccentric, confident, and vocal.” Because of this, I needed to be “mindful of my personality which others may not be receptive too, even though they appear to be welcoming to it.”

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Did this motherfucker HR person really just blame my CONFIDENT PERSONALITY as to the reason for being called a “coked out bitch”, among other things?! ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME. For too long women have been chastised for being “too … “ Too Loud. Too Confident. Too arrogant. Too sexy. Too prudish. We are sexually assaulted for it. We are fired for it. We are passed over for promotions for it. We are harassed, ridiculed, threatened, degraded, ostracized. And now I have the head of HR promoting this very idea as for why I received these 100% unprovoked messages.

You think I have a big personality? That it’s “larger than”? Bitch, you haven’t begun to see the full extend of who I am and what I’m capable of.

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Your vote says so much about you. Your inability to think critically. Your approval of violence against women. Your willful misunderstanding and corruption of the teachings of Jesus. Your vote says you are fine with misogyny, racism, lies, conspiracy theories, and your ability to swallow whole the pablum of the fascist. I’ll never pity you. You’ve undone my country. You are the problem and the world is worse off for your choices.

Your vote says so much about you. Your inability to think critically. Your approval of violence against women. Your willful misunderstanding and corruption of the teachings of Jesus. Your vote says you are fine with misogyny, racism, lies, conspiracy theories, and your ability to swallow whole the pablum of the fascist. I’ll never pity you. You’ve undone my country. You are the problem and the world is worse off for your choices.

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Vanessa Vander Weide Vanessa Vander Weide

I’m angry at how many chose to vote for manufactured fear at the expense of the rights and safety of others. Immigrants are not stealing your jobs or being allowed to vote. No one is eating your cat. Abortion has never been about the life of the baby. And every time this happens, we feign surprise. “How can our country be so hateful? How can it be so divided?” When was it ever NOT a hatefully divided country, founded on racism and colonialism, what’s yours is mine and fuck everything else? We need to stop being surprised and assuming that just because some white person cries liberal, they may not in fact be one of us. We are seeing the roots of our country start to grow above ground again, allowing the bigotry and racism and misogyny to be re-given their space to fill. It never went away, it just went below ground. And now it’s resurfaced. So now what? Do we keep being surprised? Do we keep being bullied by these assholes who hide behind their guns and obnoxiously sized flags that mount on their equally obnoxiously sized trucks? Do we maintain complacency and comfort so we can protect our cushy daily way of life? Or do WE become the bullies? Do WE take up arms? Do WE become the feared? The German youth did not fight back peacefully. Rebels do not fight back peacefully. They become feral and they become feared. I’m ready to become feral. I’m ready to let that part of my myself rise to the surface because, frankly, millions of voters just showed me it’s time.

I’m angry at how many chose to vote for manufactured fear at the expense of the rights and safety of others. Immigrants are not stealing your jobs or being allowed to vote. No one is eating your cat. Abortion has never been about the life of the baby. And every time this happens, we feign surprise. “How can our country be so hateful? How can it be so divided?” When was it ever NOT a hatefully divided country, founded on racism and colonialism, what’s yours is mine and fuck everything else? We need to stop being surprised and assuming that just because some white person cries liberal, they may not in fact be one of us. We are seeing the roots of our country start to grow above ground again, allowing the bigotry and racism and misogyny to be re-given their space to fill. It never went away, it just went below ground. And now it’s resurfaced. So now what? Do we keep being surprised? Do we keep being bullied by these assholes who hide behind their guns and obnoxiously sized flags that mount on their equally obnoxiously sized trucks? Do we maintain complacency and comfort so we can protect our cushy daily way of life? Or do WE become the bullies? Do WE take up arms? Do WE become the feared? The German youth did not fight back peacefully. Rebels do not fight back peacefully. They become feral and they become feared. I’m ready to become feral. I’m ready to let that part of my myself rise to the surface because, frankly, millions of voters just showed me it’s time.

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Vanessa Vander Weide Vanessa Vander Weide

Incandescent Rage!!!!

Incandescent Rage!!!!

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I'm so angry at everyone telling me to channel my anger into something positive.

I'm so angry at everyone telling me to channel my anger into something positive.

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I’m really angry that my cats are so friggin cute and don’t even have to really deal with this bullshit.

I’m really angry that my cats are so friggin cute and don’t even have to really deal with this bullshit.

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Vanessa Vander Weide Vanessa Vander Weide

Hey, remember in the movie Fried Green Tomatoes they offed the abusive and racist husband and then fed his body to the town in a BBQ cookout? Looked like a fun cookout, too.

Hey, remember in the movie Fried Green Tomatoes they offed the abusive and racist husband and then fed his body to the town in a BBQ cookout? Looked like a fun cookout, too.

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I wish my vagina had teeth.

I wish my vagina had teeth.

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Vanessa Vander Weide Vanessa Vander Weide

Fuck you. Fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you FUCK YOU.
FUCK your vote for Jill Stein.
FUCK your self centered ass to not vote at all.
FUCK your racism, your misogyny, your xenophobia, your OBSESSIVE need to control women's bodies.
FUCK your joy and laughter towards the violence of others.
FUCK your misinformation, idiocrity, lack of critical thinking skills, ignorance, and hypocrisy.
FUCK YOU for destroying our future and hurtling us back into the past.

Fuck you. Fuck you fuck you fuck you fuck you FUCK YOU.
FUCK your vote for Jill Stein.
FUCK your self centered ass to not vote at all.
FUCK your racism, your misogyny, your xenophobia, your OBSESSIVE need to control women's bodies.
FUCK your joy and laughter towards the violence of others.
FUCK your misinformation, idiocrity, lack of critical thinking skills, ignorance, and hypocrisy.
FUCK YOU for destroying our future and hurtling us back into the past.

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